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Monday Morning MOJO

By Intero Real Estate | April 26th, 2009 0 Comments

Attack failure and breakdowns…because it is the last step just before the breakthrough to getting what you want.

Good Morning MOJO,

“I just can’t bare it anymore”.  ”It just won’t work”.  “I just keep running into the wall”.  “I am working so hard and things aren’t getting better…they are getting worse”  “I’m calling it quits”.  Perfect!!!!  This is exactly where you need to be.  You are at the point of having that radical breakthrough you’ve been waiting for.   It is at this specific moment when the magic happens for those few who can suck it up and grind through the pain, the failure, and the doubt.  When you are at the point of throwing in the towel and calling it quits is exactly when you need to turn up the heat and really go for it, because you are at the Tipping Point.  I know it sounds kind of nuts, but you have to experience the breakdown to have the breakthrough…it is just part of the process of getting better.  This is how it is with almost everything in life…personally, professionally, with your health…you name it.

When we are born, we naturally have this fight in us…it is how we learn to walk, talk and read.  But then over time most of us lose our ability to not give up.  Our job, now more than ever, is to get it back.  The tough part is when you are one of the few who embrace failure as part of the process of getting better, you are going against the tide.  Because most people look to go the path of least resistance…not fighting when the going gets tough…just giving up is the norm. Most people are looking for the short cut…the quick fix diet or pill…the home run investment…the easy way to the top.  That is why obesity is one of the biggest epidemics in society…why so many people file bankruptcy…why so many marriages end in divorce.  Rather than doing what it takes to get what they want, people give up when the going gets tough and try the quick fix solution instead.  We try and find the easy way to avoid the pain.  There is no easy way…you have to attack it head on.  You just have to eat less/healthier and workout regularly…invest consistently, wisely and be patient…talk it out when you and your spouse are fighting…  You have to embrace the path of resistance…the path only the lucky 5 to 10 percent of society have the discipline and commitment to travel.

So, attack failure and breakdowns…because it is the last step just before the breakthrough to getting what you want.  Don’t fear the breakdown…you actually need to embrace it as part of the process of getting better.  It is those people that when things become almost unbearable…when everyone else starts throwing in the towel and giving up…it is those that can keep on track just a little longer when most others quit who will experience the radical breakthrough to get what you want…taking it to that next level.

Make it a GREAT week!!!!


Monday Morning MOJO

By Intero Real Estate | April 12th, 2009 0 Comments

Quit wasting time looking for the instant gratification solution and get to work on chipping away at it.

Good Morning MOJO,

I am here and I want to get there, but the gap is so wide it is overwhelming. Have you ever felt like that? I know I sure have and quite frankly it feels like it is almost be too much to even deal with at times. We can feel this way about our job, our health, our faith, our finances, our relationships…you name it. I will bet all of us have at least one area of our life where we are dealing with this right now. So, what are we to do? Throw in the towel and say screw it, it’s just too hard, or what? NO WAY!!!!!!!

We are an instant gratification society and there in lies part of our problem. We want it now…texting, email, internet, downloading music…you name it, we can have most things we want in seconds today. Unfortunately, for the most important things in life there is no quick fix…quick solution…there is no text, email, or website. It takes time…it takes discipline…it takes accountability.

So, here is our challenge. Quit wasting time looking for the instant gratification solution and get to work on chipping away at it. It’s like this…if you want to get fit and healthy but have been eating like crap for years and not exercised in decades it is not going to happen overnight. Heck it is not going to happen in days or weeks. Accept the fact that it is going to take months…or perhaps years to accomplish it. And in the end, to maintain it, we will need to stick with it for a lifetime. The key is to start small…just ride 20 minutes on the bike, 3 times a week. Then build on that bit by bit over time…after a few months you will get up to 60 minutes+, 5 times a week+. Then with discipline, accountability, consistency and time, you will experience the breakthrough you are looking for. It works this way for anything worthwhile in life. No matter what it is we are trying to accomplish in life remember the metaphor of starting with just 20 minutes, 3 times a week on the bike. Not an hour…not 7 days a week. Just start small and build on it over time. Because if we really want it and if we stick with it, we will be amazed at we can accomplish…we will bridge that huge gap and get there.

Be passionate, but be patient and make it a Powerful week.

Go BIG!!!!!


Monday Morning MOJO

By Intero Real Estate | March 29th, 2009 0 Comments

The key to getting whatever it is yo u want in life

Good Morning MOJO,

Here is the ticket to get whatever it is you want in your life…

Help others who want what you’ve got get it.  When helping others get what you’ve got it holds you to a higher standard and level of accountability…you will sense a tremendous amount of responsibility to set the example and be the pace setter.  As they start to get what you’ve got, it will push you to take it to the next level so you can stay one step ahead…getting you closer to what you want.

This applies to all areas of your life…Physical / Health and Nutrition, Faith, Financial, Business, Family, etc.

You’ve got to give to get…it is the law of life.  It is so simple that it’s hard for most people to believe.

Make it a powerful week!!!


Monday Morning MOJO

By Intero Real Estate | March 22nd, 2009 0 Comments

Our goals are our destination and our schedule is our directions

Good Morning MOJO,

If we want to know how successful we are going to be at accomplishing our goals at anything in life, all we need to do is look at our schedule.  Often in my job I work with people on helping them accomplish their goals.  After discussing their dreams and what it is they want to accomplish, I always ask to see their schedule.  It is amazing how many times I am working with someone who has big sexy dreams, but has been struggling to accomplish them…then I look at their schedule and it’s blank.  It’s pretty obvious why it’s not happening!!!!  Bottom line is, if it is not in your schedule it is not going to happen, no matter how bad you want it.

We can’t just have it in our heads…our minds are meant for creating ideas not storing them  We need to take the time to create our success plan, whatever it is…outline the things we need to do to accomplish it…then put those things in our schedule and stick with it day in day out forever.  Now, that is not to say we cannot make some adjustments along the way and modify our schedules to become more efficient, but we have to follow our directions/road map to success…and that road map is our schedule.  Way too many people spend the majority of their day thinking about what they need to do instead of doing what they need to do.  I know it sounds so simple and like common sense, but it is amazing how most people don’t have a detailed schedule with all of the things in it they need to do to accomplish their goals.

Look at your goals as your destination on trip half way around the world to a beautiful and remote place you have never been to before…and look at your schedule as your map/directions to get there.  Could you imagine traveling half way around the world to a place you have never been and doing it without detailed directions and a plan?  Of course not…we know we would get lost and never make it.  Well the same thing applies with our goals and our schedule.  We have never been where our goals are before…we better have a detailed plan /schedule how to get there and the discipline to follow it everyday or we will never make it.

Make it a POWERFUL week!!!!!


Monday Morning MOJO

By Intero Real Estate | March 15th, 2009 0 Comments

You can stay the same, falling behind and become more vulnerable…or change and experience the possibilities.

Good Morning MOJO ,

When you woke up this morning , where you fired up and excited to improve…fired up to find a way to do it different…fired up to do it better…fired up to be innovative…fired up to change? So many people fight it…trying to stay the same and play it safe because either things are okay and it’s working or things are so bad they just don’t want to do anything to make it worse…they don’t want to rock the boat , take risks , and ruin a good thing or make a tough situation worse. Unfortunately , if we don’t look for a better way…trying to improve everyday , we will wake up one day and everything around us will have changed and it will be too late…it will seem like it happened overnight without warning and what caused our success in the past , both personally and professionally , will be the cause of our demise.

Change is an exciting thing when we just let go and don’t fight it…the opportunities are endless and everything will just flow. However , if we resist and fight , we are in for a battle filled with disappointments and hard work that don’t produce much of anything. It is like standing on a railroad track trying to stop a train going 100 mph…you just can’t do it…its not possible. So , we can either jump on the train and enjoy the ride or get run over…it’s our choice.

Embrace change…take risks…work on getting better…work on improving yourself in all areas of your life and business every day. If you haven’t noticed , the world is changing around you every minute of every day whether you change or not. So , you can stay the same , falling behind and become more vulnerable…or change and experience the possibilities. Don’t fight it…embrace it!!!!

Make it a Powerful week!!!!!


Monday Morning MOJO

By Intero Real Estate | March 8th, 2009 0 Comments

Thinking and doing things different is the road to freedom and to fulfilling our destiny

Good Morning MOJO ,

“…sounds like a great idea , I will get started tomorrow.”  Yeah right…like that is really going to happen…just like that last thousand times he said “I will start tomorrow”. 

“Wow , I can see how that will have a hugely positive impact on my life , but I just don’t have time to deal with making the necessary changes right now…I will try and implement that next month when things settle down.”  We all know things never “settle down”.

“Why is it that no matter what I seem to do…not matter how much I work or how hard I try , I can never get ahead , physically , financially , spiritually , personally , or in my business?  I am trying hard everyday , but there just aren’t enough hours in the day.”  Here is the first thing we all need to get real clear on…no matter how hard we try , if we continue to do what we have always done , we will continue to get what we have always gotten.  So , to get more of what we want in our lives , the key is not doing more of what we are currently doing harder , but doing different…changing the way we look at things….the way we do things.  Sounds easy…right?  NOT!!!!!!!  

Getting comfortable with change does not happen over night…it is something we need to train ourselves.  Because , most of the things we do in our life and our thoughts are a routine that have been engrained in us over YEARS.  So , we plow on , mindlessly doing the same old things in the same old way.  Whether these routines or thoughts are good or bad , like a drop of water which continuously hits on a rock , our habits create a hole or a rut.  And the longer the drop of our habits hit the rock , the deeper the hole.  And over time as that hole gets deeper and deeper , the harder it is to get out of the rut when we want to make a change. 

So , why haven’t we forced ourselves out of the rut before now , when we know changes are going to make us happier in the long run?  Most of the time we don’t change because we are afraid…it makes us uncomfortable…makes us feel exposed…or we are just plain lazy.  And the older we get the harder it is to make changes because we tend to become less and less flexible.  And because we have been doing things one way for such a long time , the hole in the rock becomes the size of the Grand Canyon.  So , the key is to train ourselves to get comfortable with change…someone who actually embraces change…someone who actually gets a rush from being innovative and doing it different.  Because thinking and doing things different is the road to freedom and to fulfilling our destiny.

So start challenging your routines.  Stop running into the brick wall…stop beating your head against it.  Pause…Think.  Find a new way that goes around the wall , or maybe over it.  Rest assured , the new way is there.  It does exist.  Changing your habits can itself become common place.  The first time you defy “your way” and climb out of your rut in nearly kills you…the second time , it’s real tough…the third time , it’s merely hard.  And eventually , it becomes , if not easy , then reasonably comfortable.  Your confidence grows , and the tyrant loses a large part of its hold on you.  Then , the magic of having a life that is unbelievable…pure magic starts to unfold!!!

Make it a powerful week!!!!!


Monday Morning MOJO

By Intero Real Estate | March 1st, 2009 0 Comments

Do you have fired up energy or draining energy?

Every time you see them you try and avoid them like the plague because they are just so negative and draining.  To them everything is a crisis…everyone and everything is out to get them.  Nothing works and everything that is not going right in their world is someone else’s fault…never theirs.  They never smile and they always seem to find the negative in everything and everybody…never the positive.  Anytime there is a small setback , it is like the world is coming to an end.  They treat life like it is a WIN/LOSE game…and trust me , there is no such thing.  Whenever someone wins and someone loses , both lose.  Does this type of person sound familiar…do you know people like this?  I sure do.

Then there are those people you love being around because for what ever reason they just have this positive energy about them which makes you feel good.  They are always fired up , have a smile on their face and having a good time.  When there are small set backs , they seem to find the positive side or don’t even acknowledge it…they just keep moving forward as if it is an expected part of the process.  They are the ones who keep their emotions under control…they don’t yell , they don’t scream , they don’t attack , they don’t fight and they don’t blame.  Now don’t get me wrong , they are passionate and fired up.  They just don’t fight it…they seem to always find a way to use the flow to their advantage.  They aren’t pushing…they seem to be getting pulled through life.   They are WIN/WIN people…always looking for ways that they can WIN , but so can everyone else. 

The interesting thing about these two different types of people is that the positive ones almost always seem to win in all the equities of their life…Personally , Professionally , Business , Health…you name it.  They actually say people who smile and laugh a lot…the positive ones live longer and are much healthier and happier.  The negative ones always seem to look unhealthy and anxious…they seem to struggle in business and in their relationships…they look run down.

So , my question to you is which one are you?  Be honest. Is your energy good energy or bad energy?  Fired up energy or draining energy?  If you asked those around you to describe your energy , what would they say?  Fired up and infectious or exhausting and draining.  Are you positive or negative?  Do you fight life or do you use those people and things around you to propel you to success.

It is a choice…another one of those small choices I write about every Monday morning.  It is the cumulative affect of all those small choices that will get you are looking for in life. 

Make it a GREAT week!!!!


Monday Morning MOJO

By Intero Real Estate | February 22nd, 2009 0 Comments

In every situation…in every difficult time…in every challenge there is always an opportunity Good Morning MOJO ,

In every situation…in every difficult time…in every challenge there is always an opportunity , we just need to find it. The hard part is when the going is tough we often find our heads in the gutter with everyone else saying “why me”…”when is it going to stop”…”poor me”.But as crazy as it sounds , right now is a once in a life time opportunity. If you can find the courage and strength to pull your head out of the gutter and dig deep…I mean real deep , there is more opportunity out there than ever because your competition is all down in the dumps , just waiting for “it” to change. Now is not the time to wait for “it” to change , it is time to make “it” change…at least change those things we have control over. And those things we have control over are our actions , our attitudes , our work ethic and our mindset.

I know what many of you are saying….”Tom , you are full of…” Think about it though….what is your competition is doing right now? That’s right…they are sitting on the sidelines. And because they are waiting and not doing anything , is exactly why now is our opportunity to strike. The key is don’t get sucked in to the doom and gloom and start focusing on those things you have control over…your actions , your attitude , your work ethic and your mindset. Remember in every breakdown there is an opportunity to have a breakthrough for those who have the courage to grab it.

Get the MOJO and make it a breakthrough week!!!!!


Monday Morning MOJO

By Intero Real Estate | February 8th, 2009 0 Comments

Make it a Powerful week and kick some Success Killer ass!!!!!!!

Good Morning MOJO,

Fear…Anxiety…Worry = Success Killer

Now days, those 3 feelings are what most of us are living with every day.  Unfortunately, many are totally consumed with them everyday.  Trust me…I know it is tough and can be exhausting, but if we let these 3 feelings control our life and our decisions, we will never get what we want…and worse yet, the more we focus on them the worse it gets.  Now more than ever, we all need to work on our mental toughness and that starts with taking care of ourselves…taking care of our health, our minds, our relationships, our spirituality, etc.  We need to take care of those things we actually have control over instead of obsessing about those things we have no control over, because if we are feeling good about those things we have control over it will carry over into the other areas of our life and help squash the Success Killer.   

Don’t let the Fear, Worry and Anxiety consume you or it will disable you…it will not only stop us from moving forward, but it will actually cause us to slip back.  So, focus on your mental toughness…focus on improving those areas of our lives we have control over and don’t let the Fear, Anxiety and Worry hold us back.  Because if we do, we will never get what we want and the success killer will win.

Make it a Powerful week and kick some Success Killer ass!!!!!!!


Monday Morning MOJO

By Intero Real Estate | February 1st, 2009 0 Comments

Play hard and loose this week…play like a winner and you will be one!!!!

Good Morning MOJO,

When I was in high school and ran track, our track coach always had us keep our index finger and our thumb touching each other during our event, because when you do that, you cannot clinch your fist which is a natural tendency when you are sprinting. Why not clinch your fist you ask.  Because you waist energy and effort…it actually makes you slow down.

2 times a week I workout with a group of people (Boot Camp).  One of the things we do is run quarter mile sprints.  Usually about ½ through the quarter mile our trainer will be yelling at us from across the track to relax, relax, relax…  He is yelling at us to relax so we don’t struggle.   When I relax, the most amazing thing happens, I actually run faster…while when I grit and try to run faster, I slow down.

Relax….

Looking at these hands, which one do you think is more at peace and more likely to get what it wants in life?  Is it the fist or is it the open hand?  Which one most represents you?  How does that apply to us in our lives?  Are we more likely to get what we want when we are threatening, intimidating, tense, stressed, and uptight….or are we more likely to get what we want when we are compassionate, relaxed, at peace and loose?  I think we all know the answer to that question.  Now don’t get me wrong…we still need to work our ass off…we may need to be discipline…we need to be organized…we need to be focused…we need to be accountable.  However, in addition to those things we need to relax.  If you are a runner, golfer, skier, tennis player…, any coach will tell you to be successful and play at the highest level you need to be able to play loose during process.  With one month already behind us in 2009, remember as we attack our goals and ambitions that to go faster we must relax…to hit it farther, we must relax…to accomplish our goals in life and in business, we must relax…to win, we must relax!!!!

Play hard and loose this week…play like a winner and you will be one!!!!


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